The holiday season of giving (as in giving your boyfriend that new cologne he's been hinting about) and receiving (the ultimate little box, draped in a big red bow from your beau)
For those of us flying solo, along with the blistering cold comes the harsh reality of having no special someone to stroll along with, enjoying Celebration in the Oaks in City Park, or to pucker up under the mistletoe to. With commercials, songs of cheer, and the Hallmark Channel movie marathons throughout the month of December, who can fault those of us appearing to have been bitten by the (bah-hum) Bug?
Someone posed this question to me about a week ago: If being single was so great, would there really be a need for the countless articles and (dare I say) blogs to convince us?
Hmmmmm...
I'll be honest: since my divorce and a fair share of 'relationships' that have crashed and burned thereafter, I've probably read at least half of the countless articles that urge me to love myself in order for someone else to love me...and to help others in need-in an attempt to shift the focus from my own issues....
-and I'm sure they're all meant to be good advice but...after trying..and trying to put the words to action (unsuccessfully) just recently, I stopped and asked myself:
Do I really need motive to love the beautiful, funny, stylish, unique, sorta smart, quirky, shy, somewhat neurotic, creative soul that is Kelly Ann Dorsey-Parker?
Or is my heart a heart that beats to the rhythm of a hidden agenda?
The answer to both questions: A resounding....NO
If you remember any lessons shared during Mating Season, make sure this one sticks:
Love YOURSELF, cause you're worthy of it; not because you need to prove it to a potential mate!!
Share your time and your good heart with others because it feels good, not because it makes you look good!
So this Christmas, there will be no brooding at the couples arm & arm & madly in love, or rolling eyes as that awful song What do the Lonely do at Christmas plays...
While writing this entry, I came across several quotes serving as inspiration for single folks (from Henry David Thoreau, to Carrie Bradshaw to Dr. Seuss) But one just really stood out above the rest:
"You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere."
-unknown
Enjoy loving yourself throughout this Holiday season!!
I know I will!!
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