As Told By: Eric J.
When I was in middle school, I remember this song Jermaine Jackson came out with:
Don't Take It Personal-
..take the bitter with the sweet, easy come, easy go.
That's words to live by in the dating world. For both WOMEN and men. I'm a single man, early 30's who constantly hears women stress over one man-ONE man who didn't live up to their expectations, didn't call when HE said HE would-wasn't up front about what HE was looking for or what HE wanted-
..need I go on? It's as if the world ended, cause one brother let you down. I have a 22 year-old sister who I feel obligated to steer in the right direction. Even though I think she is the most beautiful queen in the world, she has (and will) run into fellas who will look her way, try to get to know her, wine and dine her, then move on to another beautiful queen. This; by no means, devalues her worth: just means playa wasn't that into her-and that's alright.
Men deal with rejection constantly, and we're reared to accept it as a passage to manhood. Society has taught us that sons should hunt and conquer as many women as possible, while daughters should seek and stay faithful to one. In saying that, I'd like to let you ladies in on a little secret: Despite what we've all been told, it's not that fun puttin ourselves out there and gettin shut down-it stings sometimes. But the sun will rise the next day, mail gets delivered, life goes on, and we'll give it a go at the next happy hour or concert or festival. And every 'hunter' eventually finds the one to make him change his ways. Think about if we just quit all together after the first time we got shut down by a female? Yep, the world we be a lot less exciting-and less crowded!!
I'd like all ladies who will read this post to grow some thicker skin! Do whatever you need to do to love yourself more (which is downright sexy, to me) and realize Lesson number Three:
There will be many, MANY men who will find you attractive, be turned on by you and genuinely love you: more than the few idiots who can't see you for the lovely queen that you are.
Remember, easy come, easy go. The 'bitter' will make the sweet, much sweeter!!
